Sometimes you may have dated someone who was almost exactly like you or you both had the same interest or sense of humor. However, dating just didn't seem to work out for you two. Can you still be friends with an ex? Or does it just make things hella awkward because you two used to kiss and hold hands and stuff?
My answer is that it depends and I've had experience with both. Some relationships are just better as friends and others you just can't be friends.
Sunday, June 21, 2015
Saturday, June 13, 2015
Crushing on Your Guy Friends
Since I made a previous post, which you can read here, about being friends with guys, I thought that I would share my experience with guy friends that you also have small feelings for. I have had multiple occasions in which I've been crushing on a guy that I'm friends with.
I've noticed that one of the best ways to sorta get a guy you like to notice you is by becoming friends with him. However sometimes you may just be friends with a guy. It's always confusing to try and tell whether you are crushing on a guy or if you are simply friends with them. I tend to be a little flirty with most guys that I am friends with. A lot of the time they flirt back.
I've noticed that one of the best ways to sorta get a guy you like to notice you is by becoming friends with him. However sometimes you may just be friends with a guy. It's always confusing to try and tell whether you are crushing on a guy or if you are simply friends with them. I tend to be a little flirty with most guys that I am friends with. A lot of the time they flirt back.
Friday, June 12, 2015
What I've Learned from Having Mainly All Guys as Friends
In the process of getting rid of unnecessary drama in my life, I ended up with mainly guys as my closest friends*. I constantly heard girls in middle school talking about how having guys as best friends is so much easier.
*I'm defining closest friends as the people I tend to talk to on a daily basis, even if it's through texting or Snapchatting
One of the main reasons usually given for this is that guys have less drama. I, however, have found this to not always necessarily be true. I have been friends with guys who gossip more than my friends that are girls. If I would tell them something about someone, they would stir up drama.
A perk to having mainly guy friends is they can (possibly) give you better advice for your guy problems. They also may be thankful for your advice for them about girls. Some of the best advice about guy problems came from guys that I'm close friends with.
Sometimes people ask you if you and your best guy friend are dating and both of you get disgusted. This is something that annoyed me. People would always assume I was flirting with my guy friends or they were flirting with me. Occasionally this was true, but it wasn't all the time.
My favorite thing about having mainly guy friends is you have a whole group of big brothers (even if they are younger than you). They constantly will protect you as if you are their sister. I grew up with no brothers so this was nice to know that my guy friends had my back.
I honestly, despite some of the downsides, do greatly appreciate my guy friends because I wouldn't be able to get through life without them.
*I'm defining closest friends as the people I tend to talk to on a daily basis, even if it's through texting or Snapchatting
One of the main reasons usually given for this is that guys have less drama. I, however, have found this to not always necessarily be true. I have been friends with guys who gossip more than my friends that are girls. If I would tell them something about someone, they would stir up drama.
A perk to having mainly guy friends is they can (possibly) give you better advice for your guy problems. They also may be thankful for your advice for them about girls. Some of the best advice about guy problems came from guys that I'm close friends with.
Sometimes people ask you if you and your best guy friend are dating and both of you get disgusted. This is something that annoyed me. People would always assume I was flirting with my guy friends or they were flirting with me. Occasionally this was true, but it wasn't all the time.
My favorite thing about having mainly guy friends is you have a whole group of big brothers (even if they are younger than you). They constantly will protect you as if you are their sister. I grew up with no brothers so this was nice to know that my guy friends had my back.
I honestly, despite some of the downsides, do greatly appreciate my guy friends because I wouldn't be able to get through life without them.
10 Ways of Knowing Your True Friends
Throughout my 16 years of experience I've started to learn how to find true friends. Below I've listed the 10 ways I like to know someone is truly a good friend.
- You don't have to force yourself to talk to them (this includes talking to them just because you haven't in a while and you feel bad)
- You have a good time when you're around them
- You don't necessarily have to enjoy the same things, but you should be able to have a conversation about what you enjoy
- They don't talk trash about everyone. This one is a little iffy but usually if someone gossips about everyone to you, they may possibly gossip about you to everyone
- You can have serious conversations
- They don't tell people what you say
- They give advice, or at least listen to you
- They understand you when you're being weird
- Even if you don't see them everyday, you don't feel awkward around them when you do
- They don't cause drama involving you
One of the best things about having true friends is that you actually enjoy being friends with them. You don't necessarily have to see them everyday, but you know that they will always be there for you no matter what.
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